Thank you facebook for teaching me a lesson

So I discovered something about myself today and I really didn't like it. So it started with Jeremy finally realizing that all of his contact info on everything still has his ilstu email address. So he decided to change all of that. This included his Facebook account. So, he changed it to our email address which is all good fine and dandy... except... that was also the email address I used for my facebook. Therefore, what happened was stupid facebook deleted my profile, everything I had ever done on it and basically deleted me from cyberspace so that Jeremy could change his email address.

First discovery... I really wanted to blame Jeremy for this. I was mad at myself for even wanting to blame him. Then I realized how innocent his mistake was and I blamed Facebook.

Second discovery... Facebook kind of ruled my life... Now my inital reaction was to say "okay, forget Facebook, i'll do without." This sounded kind of liberating. Until I realized that it was my sole means of communication with many many people. I realized that without it, I would be missing out on a lot of relationships. As sad as this seems, it is totally true. It has become our form of communication. I don't like it really at all. It's fast, it's easy, and it's totally impersonal I decided. But, because the rest of the world is doing it, I'm doing it too...

Third discovery... I hate the fact that this bothers me so much! It shouldn't!

So basically, it allowed me to step back, see where my priorities were and I decided instead of fretting over it and stewing at the computer, I would go help my husband sort through his childhood stuff...

Which brings me to the next event of my evening. So it was 9pm and Jeremy decided it was time to go through all of his stuff (which basically filled our garage) that his parents dropped off from their house. Let me preface this by saying that he is a total packrat and he knows it. He keeps virtually everything. I, on the otherhand, only keep things that serve a purpose. If I've used it in the last year, I can keep it, otherwise, to the curb.

So while I was stewing, he had begun sorting. When I got over my tantrum and decided to be a grown-up who is dedicated to her family and faith versus facebook, I went out and almost cried because he had already sorted 80% of the stuff and was keeping very little. He did this because he knew it meant a lot to me to have him get rid of unnecessary things. We laughed and talked about his childhood memories and enjoyed those moments together.

So basically, this really long post ends in this simple lesson that I learned tonight: It's okay to allow things like facebook to enhance relationships but its not okay to let them come between them. My husband is the most wonderful man in the whole world and I thank him for being so selfless each and every day.

This is Jeremy and I in front of St. Peter's Basillica in Rome (or as Jeremy would say, Catholic Disneyworld)