Thank you everyone for all of the prayers. It quite literally is what is getting us through this rough time in our adoption journey. I cannot believe the mass amounts of people that have prayed for us and continue to do so, it means so much to us. At one point, we said that we wish that the birth mom could see just how much support we have in our lives, just to get a glimpse of the life her child could have had... Maybe that's just being selfish of me...
Anyway, people ask us how we're doing, and in answer to that, we're doing okay. There are certainly rough moments, but overall, we've accepted that our time will come and now it is our duty to pray for this child each and every day of our lives. He is our "spiritual child" from here on out and we would appreciate prayers for him and his family. I still break down quite a bit throughout the day, certain times are harder than others. At this point, we have put our profile back into circulation and are hoping for a short wait again this time... The wait is the hardest part of this whole thing, knowing it will start all over again and we have no idea or control over how long it is...
On another note, the name. The birth mom never actually named him while we were at the hospital. I think it had become a source of stress for her and she simply avoided it all. We have been calling him by the name we picked out for the last few weeks, but honestly, I couldn't bring myself to call him that after he was born. I sensed the hesitation on her part and knew things were not going to work out so smoothly.
The name that we have chosen for our first son is Anthony. While this baby would have been Anthony, it is still a name that we means a great deal to us, so it is a name we will use in the future. However, I'm simply tired of keeping it a secret, and my hubby agreed. So there you have it, curious minds can be put to rest :-). And just in case anyone is wondering, our favorite girl name is Abigail Clare.
Sorry for the randomness, that's simply how my mind is functioning right now. And again, thanks for all of the prayers and support. We feel truly blessed by all of the people in our lives and we know that our future children are going to feel the same.
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Friday, February 11, 2011
Tuesday, February 8, 2011
Adoption Attempt #1 = failed...
Well, our worst fears came true today when we heard from our caseworker that the birth mom has changed her mind. She is planning on taking the baby home with her tomorrow when she's discharged.
Please keep us in your prayers as this is extremely hard for us to deal with. We are very upset and feel very hurt and even a little bit used.
We appreciate everyone's support and prayers as we deal with all of our emotions and figure out where to go from here.
Please keep us in your prayers as this is extremely hard for us to deal with. We are very upset and feel very hurt and even a little bit used.
We appreciate everyone's support and prayers as we deal with all of our emotions and figure out where to go from here.
Monday, February 7, 2011
Baby Boy is here!
Our baby boy was born this morning at 8:36am. He weighs 6 lbs, 4 oz and is 19.5 inches long (long and skinny!). I got to hold him briefly after he was born and he is absolutely wonderful and absolutely adorable. As of right now, we have a name picked out but haven't yet heard what the birth mom named him at birth (although we think it was the name we picked...) So until that's official, we'll keep it a secret. However, if everything goes as planned and he comes home with us on Thursday, the name we chose will be his name. Confusing? I hope not...
We are extremely happy and I can't stay away from the nursery for more than like 10 minutes (it's about time for my shift again :-) We're looking forward to speaking with the birth mom and getting to hold him hopefully later today but until then we're hanging out at the hospital and trying very hard to keep our eyes open as we didn't really sleep last night!!
Please keep us all in your prayers, as until she signs her surrenders on Thursday, she is his parent and we are simply "visitors". So please pray for a smooth week here at the hospital and that the adoption goes smoothly and without drama, and that we get to bring home our son on Thursday!
We are extremely happy and I can't stay away from the nursery for more than like 10 minutes (it's about time for my shift again :-) We're looking forward to speaking with the birth mom and getting to hold him hopefully later today but until then we're hanging out at the hospital and trying very hard to keep our eyes open as we didn't really sleep last night!!
Please keep us all in your prayers, as until she signs her surrenders on Thursday, she is his parent and we are simply "visitors". So please pray for a smooth week here at the hospital and that the adoption goes smoothly and without drama, and that we get to bring home our son on Thursday!
Tuesday, January 25, 2011
Getting close
The c-section date is coming up! While time seems to be moving slowly, I know it'll get here before I know it. We've been doing some fun last minute "getting ready" type things that may not seem all that exciting, but make us super happy that we get to do them.
For example, switching our insurance to pick up another member of the family in two weeks (not so excited about the rise in price, but excited for the reason).
We also set up a meeting with the pediatrician we would like to see!
Also taking time off work (for Jer at least, I'm pretty much done working with the exception of a random sub day here or there for the next week or so) for when the baby's born, and Jer's very quickly finishing lots of projects this week and next as it is their busy season and he's responsible for a lot of projects at work. That way he can enjoy his week off with his wife and son (weird to say that, but oh so exciting).
The car seat is ready and the base is installed in the car.
The diaper bag is packed and fully stocked with a few of the millions of newborn clothes people have gotten us.
The baptism is (unofficially as we have to wait till he's born and surrenders are signed) scheduled.
Cloth diapers are washed and ready for a cute bum to poop in them!
Bottles are washed, and we're holding off on buying any formula till we know if there is something that doesn't agree with him (and we'll take any extra samples from breast feeding moms around here that you are not using, cause I'm told you're given lots of samples/coupons/all kinds of stuff like that even though you're bf'ing).
Place to stay while we're waiting for baby boy to be discharged is taken care of with much thanks to friends of ours who live there (and super close to the hospital), we're so grateful for the hospitality.
Name has been solidified with the birth mom, she LOVED our compromise as there was a little issue over this at the first meeting, and nothing ended up being decided at the time. However, she's happy with the name we chose because it means something to us and to her and we're super happy with the name we chose, it's adorable, and very special to us. We really wanted to honor her in some way with his middle name, but the one she had in mind just wasn't going to cut it, so we compromised and now everyone is happy!
Toys/seats from a shower and stuff are washed and set up around the house (although a certain hubby complains about tripping over them in the dark...) I think they're cute and fun to look at even though we forget they're there sometimes!
The nursery is all ready (although, this has been true for a LONG time now...)
Basically we're ready and we can't wait and time needs to go super fast for the next two weeks, until the surrenders are signed and the it can slow down big time. Unfortunately I know it will be the opposite, but I can dream can't I! It's really nice to do things that normal pregnant people get to do with two weeks left in their pregnancy. Our caseworker pointed that we are "paper pregnant" and it is totally normal and we were encouraged to participate in all of the things that pregnant couples would do with two weeks left before baby comes. Although, I guess normal pregnant couples don't have to include a phone call/meeting with a lawyer in their day to day preparations :-) Just one more thing to do, and pay for :-(
For example, switching our insurance to pick up another member of the family in two weeks (not so excited about the rise in price, but excited for the reason).
We also set up a meeting with the pediatrician we would like to see!
Also taking time off work (for Jer at least, I'm pretty much done working with the exception of a random sub day here or there for the next week or so) for when the baby's born, and Jer's very quickly finishing lots of projects this week and next as it is their busy season and he's responsible for a lot of projects at work. That way he can enjoy his week off with his wife and son (weird to say that, but oh so exciting).
The car seat is ready and the base is installed in the car.
The diaper bag is packed and fully stocked with a few of the millions of newborn clothes people have gotten us.
The baptism is (unofficially as we have to wait till he's born and surrenders are signed) scheduled.
Cloth diapers are washed and ready for a cute bum to poop in them!
Bottles are washed, and we're holding off on buying any formula till we know if there is something that doesn't agree with him (and we'll take any extra samples from breast feeding moms around here that you are not using, cause I'm told you're given lots of samples/coupons/all kinds of stuff like that even though you're bf'ing).
Place to stay while we're waiting for baby boy to be discharged is taken care of with much thanks to friends of ours who live there (and super close to the hospital), we're so grateful for the hospitality.
Name has been solidified with the birth mom, she LOVED our compromise as there was a little issue over this at the first meeting, and nothing ended up being decided at the time. However, she's happy with the name we chose because it means something to us and to her and we're super happy with the name we chose, it's adorable, and very special to us. We really wanted to honor her in some way with his middle name, but the one she had in mind just wasn't going to cut it, so we compromised and now everyone is happy!
Toys/seats from a shower and stuff are washed and set up around the house (although a certain hubby complains about tripping over them in the dark...) I think they're cute and fun to look at even though we forget they're there sometimes!
The nursery is all ready (although, this has been true for a LONG time now...)
Basically we're ready and we can't wait and time needs to go super fast for the next two weeks, until the surrenders are signed and the it can slow down big time. Unfortunately I know it will be the opposite, but I can dream can't I! It's really nice to do things that normal pregnant people get to do with two weeks left in their pregnancy. Our caseworker pointed that we are "paper pregnant" and it is totally normal and we were encouraged to participate in all of the things that pregnant couples would do with two weeks left before baby comes. Although, I guess normal pregnant couples don't have to include a phone call/meeting with a lawyer in their day to day preparations :-) Just one more thing to do, and pay for :-(
Wednesday, November 17, 2010
I CAN'T EVEN DESCRIBE...
...OUR JOY AT THE MOMENT!!!
Yes, it's the post you've all been waiting for (of course no one more so than Jeremy and I).
It is fitting that during National Adoption Month, we are identified by a birth parent as the (hopeful) adoptive parents of her unborn child!!!! Yes, we got our long awaited phone call today. It went a little something like this:
Last week we had a 6 month licensing review at which point our case worker had to do another walk through of our home, inform us of any program changes, ask us some really seemingly pointless questions (for example: "Now you know after you get a baby, you will have to feed it right? **She HAS to ask these, but how dumb is that) and gave us updates on our status within the program. It was a very uplifting meeting as she told us that our profile had been viewed 4-5 times (about once a month, pretty good considering what we thought we were getting viewed) and she told us that we actually were in a pile of prospective adoptive parents waiting for a birth mom at the moment. She did not know when she would pick, but (in hindsight) we think she may have had some inside information on this. She gave us some pretty specific details and kinda led us to get our hopes up... something she generally doesn't do...
Fast forward to today... I got a phone call from my caseworker and returned the call after school (of course, while I was still AT school). I was in the hallway when she said "Are you sitting down?" and I shouted and burst into tears, scaring some kids and receiving some pretty strange looks... So I talked with her for a while and all the time she's giving me lots of details and such and I'm saying to myself "Pinch me" and "I need to call Jeremy". Once I finally got off the phone with her and had cried for a good fifteen minutes at the point, I called Jeremy.
His first response was, "You're not joking are you?" That would be mean of me... I drove (maybe a little too quickly) to pick him up at which point I couldn't remember driving there, one of those surreal times when you're not sure how you got from one place to another and made him get in the drivers seat. We then went to tell our parents and we spent lots of time on the phone telling sisters, brothers and grandparents and lots of friends.
So, the details, that we can share (most are confidential) are: the birth mom is due January 4 (YES, THAT IS LIKE LESS THAN TWO MONTHS AWAY, WE COULD BE PARENTS AT CHRISTMASTIME!), other than we know that we will get to meet the birth mom on Monday, November 29th and get a chance to talk with her and get to know her a little bit. We do not know boy or girl (neither does she) and we don't know (and can't share) much about her yet.
So, keep the prayers coming. We are praying very hard for a smooth adoption and (selfishly) that she doesn't change her mind. Prayers, prayers, prayers please, for the birth mom, the baby, and for us!
P.S. this blog post has taken me like 2 hours to write because we keep getting fun returned phone calls!
Yes, it's the post you've all been waiting for (of course no one more so than Jeremy and I).
It is fitting that during National Adoption Month, we are identified by a birth parent as the (hopeful) adoptive parents of her unborn child!!!! Yes, we got our long awaited phone call today. It went a little something like this:
Last week we had a 6 month licensing review at which point our case worker had to do another walk through of our home, inform us of any program changes, ask us some really seemingly pointless questions (for example: "Now you know after you get a baby, you will have to feed it right? **She HAS to ask these, but how dumb is that) and gave us updates on our status within the program. It was a very uplifting meeting as she told us that our profile had been viewed 4-5 times (about once a month, pretty good considering what we thought we were getting viewed) and she told us that we actually were in a pile of prospective adoptive parents waiting for a birth mom at the moment. She did not know when she would pick, but (in hindsight) we think she may have had some inside information on this. She gave us some pretty specific details and kinda led us to get our hopes up... something she generally doesn't do...
Fast forward to today... I got a phone call from my caseworker and returned the call after school (of course, while I was still AT school). I was in the hallway when she said "Are you sitting down?" and I shouted and burst into tears, scaring some kids and receiving some pretty strange looks... So I talked with her for a while and all the time she's giving me lots of details and such and I'm saying to myself "Pinch me" and "I need to call Jeremy". Once I finally got off the phone with her and had cried for a good fifteen minutes at the point, I called Jeremy.
His first response was, "You're not joking are you?" That would be mean of me... I drove (maybe a little too quickly) to pick him up at which point I couldn't remember driving there, one of those surreal times when you're not sure how you got from one place to another and made him get in the drivers seat. We then went to tell our parents and we spent lots of time on the phone telling sisters, brothers and grandparents and lots of friends.
So, the details, that we can share (most are confidential) are: the birth mom is due January 4 (YES, THAT IS LIKE LESS THAN TWO MONTHS AWAY, WE COULD BE PARENTS AT CHRISTMASTIME!), other than we know that we will get to meet the birth mom on Monday, November 29th and get a chance to talk with her and get to know her a little bit. We do not know boy or girl (neither does she) and we don't know (and can't share) much about her yet.
So, keep the prayers coming. We are praying very hard for a smooth adoption and (selfishly) that she doesn't change her mind. Prayers, prayers, prayers please, for the birth mom, the baby, and for us!
P.S. this blog post has taken me like 2 hours to write because we keep getting fun returned phone calls!
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