Sunday, October 27, 2013

Private

I've been doing a lot of blog thinking in the last few weeks.  I really love to blog.  I love to document our life and I really enjoy reading past posts and seeing how our journey has led us to where we are today.  This is my life on here.  I'm pretty much an open book.  And there lies the challenge.

I like to be an open book.  I like sharing our joys and struggles.  I hope that it helps others in their IF and adoption journeys.  But most importantly, it reminds me of where we've been and how blessed we are to have our four beautiful children.  When I'm having a rough day raising my children, I read past posts and am instantly reminded of the blessing each and every one of my babies is to me.  I'm reminded to never take them for granted and I'm reminded of my purpose as their mom, to get them to heaven. 

With all that said, the time has come to make my blog private.

I really really hate to do it.  Open book, remember?  But with 3 different birth families, and two of those families who we have no contact with, I'm beginning to be uncomfortable sharing information about my kids.  Particularly AA and M as the lack of information about their birth families paired with some comments from case workers, it's in their best interests to keep their information private.

So for safety and privacy reasons, I need to be aware of who is reading.  I thought about stopping the blogging altogether, but realized that it's such an outlet for me.  And it's like a family scrapbook with pictures and captions of so many memories and important events in our lives.  I don't want to stop.  So I'm simply making it not so public.

So, if you'd like access to my blog, and I hope you do, you can email me at k.smallthingswithgreatlove@gmail.com.  

I have no problem granting people access.  If I don't know you, if you could let me know who you are or link to your own blog, I'd love to have you read.  I don't want to lose readers and I enjoy following many of your stories and I will continue to do so.  Just send me an email and I can easily give you access!!

Thanks to all who read about our family's journey.  We are overjoyed at the way our family has grown and I look forward to blogging about our adventures as a family of 6!

Saturday, October 19, 2013

Update

Things are going well over here.  I'm busier than I ever thought I could be.  But I'm also happier than I ever thought possible.

Agnes and Mya are adjusting great so far.  We haven't had any challenges as far as their concerned aside from the influx of "Whys" and "What is that?" that comes with having a 3 year old :-).  Curiosity should be her middle name.  Agnes has been very well behaved and has stepped into a big sister roll for sure.  She loves to help and is great at following directions.  She's a good sleeper and although we anticipate some behavior challenges as time goes on, we hope that our consistency right now will pay off down the road.  We love her dearly, she has brought a lot of joy and smiles to our home.

Mya is a handful.  She is sweet as can be and way ornery.  I call her my little spiderman.  Everytime I turn around she's scaling something and getting into things she shouldn't.  It reminds me of how low key Anthony is!!!  She is quiet and doesn't talk much but when she does, she speaks clearly and in 2-3 word sentences at just 16 months.  She's pretty much like having another Anna all over again.  Right down to the bowed legs and the sassy attitude.  She's active and busy and she is very attached to me already.  She's been unsure of Jeremy until yesterday.  I went to run errands and she woke up early from her nap so Jeremy got her up and they got to bond :-).  She's an awesome sleeper, sleeping 13+ hours at night and usually 3+ hour naps.  And Mya being part of our family means we finally have a child that will sleep in the car.

Anna's not adjusting quite as well as the others.  She's having a hard time sharing her daddy.  She's a total daddy's girl and sharing him has caused many a meltdown.  She also is having a harder time falling asleep (she already had a hard time...) at night, causing a little lack of sleep.  But we're trying some different things to make sure she gets her 1 on 1 time and some alone time to help her calm down.  Anna's first reaction to everything is to scream.  She CAN use her words and she certainly has the words to use.  But she chooses to scream despite our constant reminder and modeling to ask nicely.  So really she's just acting like her usual sassy self, just a little more so.  She does love having two new sisters and her and Agnes play great together.  They call each other their "friend" and have a blast sharing a room.  They woke up giggling at each other this morning and I couldn't help but be happy to hear it at 6 am.  Hopefully with time we can mold that drama into something more constructive.

Anthony's doing great and started walking mostly full time this week.  He loves all the action and enjoys all of the people at the table at dinnertime.  Agnes and Mya have already started calling him BroBro like Anna does and they think he's just so cute.  He's as laid back and sweet as ever.

Agnes asked us a few days ago if she could call us Mama and Daddy and Mya is calling us that too.  It's sweet and yet a little sad that they so quickly can call someone new "Mama".  We're so happy to be their parents and have had a blast with our not so little family.

Having 4 toddlers certainly keep us on our toes.  They're busy and there's rarely a moment when someone's not crying or whining or being loud.  However, we've gotten naps down to an art, giving ourselves a 1-1.5 hour window with all four sleeping.  And by 8:30 they're all asleep at night.  Keeping up with my house is going to be challenging, I used to sweep the kitchen once a week.  In the last 24 hours, it's been done 2-3 times.  And the dishes and laundry have multiplied by like 10 with two more kids.  But we've finally gotten all of the kids' rooms put back together and all of their clothes sorted and put away.  There's still a pile of Agnes and Mya's stuff in the garage that needs sorted but it's mostly toys and frankly, we have an over abundance of those to begin with.

We have family pictures this afternoon (they had already been scheduled!) and Agnes is very excited to get some pictures of herself on the wall.  She keeps asking why she's not in our family pictures.  We will have to get those up ASAP.

We enrolled her in preschool starting the week after next and she's very excited.  Getting all these littles up and dressed and out the door each morning will be quite the feat but we're excited to get started at the school.  It's the school I went to for elementary and it's wonderful.  I'm so excited to be entering that phase!

We took a trip to the pumpkin patch and each kid picked out and painted their own pumpkin.  We've also hit up the park and the mall playground this week.  We've taken countless walks and trips to our neighborhood park.  The kids love being outside.  The fence we put in this summer is WONDERFUL and it's been fun to play with everyone.  Each of our kids has a built in friend in our house.

Overall everyone's adjusting nicely and we're ready to get back into our routine next week.  Here's a few pictures.  No faces allowed online until their final adoption, but these will work for now!

AA and Anna

Pushing Anthony, wearing Mya (her favorite place) and walking with Agnes and Anna

Agnes and Mya at the pumpkin farm

Anna and Agnes watching the ducks

Tuesday, October 15, 2013

Anticipation

We've been through a whirlwind of emotions the lat week.  And today has been no exception.  I've had quite a few happy tears today.

We got to meet our two newest family members last night.  And it went amazingly.  The girls warmed up to us very quickly and Agnes and Anna were fast friends.  Agnes kept saying, "I like my new friend Annie!"  Mya took a few minutes to warm up to us but by the end of the visit, she was upset that I had to give her back to the case worker.  They're beautiful and sweet and are a perfect fit for our family.

We certainly have some challenges with the "learning to share" category with 4 toddlers.  And there will be some attention seeking tantrums I'm sure (likely from Anna who throws those all the time anyway).  But overall, I feel as though they'll acclimate quickly.  We're looking forward to spending time as a family of 6 (did I seriously just type that?!?).

I'm sure we're in for quite the transition.  Both with Agnes and Mya and with Anna and Anthony.  But we couldn't be more excited.  We're ready for the challenge and we're ready for the house full of beautiful toddlers!

Saturday, October 12, 2013

Getting Ready!

Our two newest daughters are coming home in just a few days (Tuesday) and there's so much to do to make our home ready for them!

Rooms:

We've switched bedrooms around.  The older girls Anna and Agne (just turned 3, and yes, another A name...) will share a room.  We already had bunk beds in there, so we unbunked them and we now have two twin beds set up.  It's super cute in there!

We moved Anthony to his big boy room which has always been intended for a boy.  It's painted gray with legos on the walls and red and black accents.  His crib and a twin bed are now in there.  He's adjusted fine to a new room great!

Little Mya will have the nursery.  The agency purchased a crib for her when she went into care, so that crib gets to come with her.  So we don't have to find/purchase one or have anyone sleep in a pack n play.

We've decorated each room, put names on the walls, and tried to make it feel like home for Agnes and Mya.  

Car Seats:

I've had to move car seats around and a friend gave us one of their extras for the big girls.  The girls also come with agency car seats but I'm not sure what shape those are in, so we may not even take them and let the agency use them for someone else.  It depends on their condition.  We now have the middle seats benched together with Anthony and Mya rear facing.  The big girls are then forward facing in the backseat with a space in between for a buffer between our strong willed, high energy 2/3 year olds!

Bathroom:

We've been meaning to spruce up the kids' bathroom for a while and this is the perfect motivation.  It was not very kid looking and was kinda dull before.  We were still using little baby towels for both Anna and Anthony and well, they were getting a little big for those.  So we did a little shopping.  We got a fun, colorful, kinda girly but still okay for a boy shower curtain and got the kids coordinating but different colored towels.  They will have THEIR color and it should keep conflicts down and organization up.  I need to do something about their toothbrushes and such to keep them all clean/separate but that can wait.  It's bright, cheery, colorful and looks like kids live in it now!

Clothes:

The girls come with all of the clothes that have been purchased for them since they went into care.  So I'm not getting too much out for M just yet.  It sounds like they have a lot of clothes, so our closets will soon be bursting.  A friend who has girls who have similar size spacing (not ages, but sizes) handed down all of her matching stuff.  So we have some super cute matching outfits for the 3 girls.

Stuff:

The girls also come with all of the "stuff" that was purchased for them since going into care.  Toys, bikes, water tables, high chairs, etc...  I'm kinda dreading that, we're already overflowing with toys.  But we're allowed to go through it all and keep/pass along whatever we see fit.  Obviously anything they're super attached to will stay and bikes and things are greatly appreciated!



Overall, we're over the moon excited for our newest additions.  They sound like sweet girls and it sounds like our home is perfectly suited for their needs.  Especially Agnes whose challenges would be greatly reduced by not having to attend day care.  She will hopefully be starting preschool at our parish school in the coming weeks.  She will actually be in Anna's class but DCFS mandates that any 3 year old must attend preschool.  She will then be in the same 3/4 year old class as Anna next fall.  Mya and Anthony are also in the same grade level (only 2 months apart) so we will have 4 in back to back years.  At least it saves us hugely on tuition!  The 3rd is greatly reduced and the 4th is free!

We've been doing lots and lots of laundry, linens, clothes, new sheets/comforters, towels, etc... in preparation.  I'm glad I've been storing away some freezer meals in the past few weeks.  We're going to need them!

We just cannot believe how abundantly blessed we are.  I will try to stay updated, blogging is my outlet a lot of the time!  However, we cannot share pictures of Agnes and Mya until their final adoption (hopefully May/June time frame).  So I still may post pictures of Anna and Anthony but it's going to kill me not to share their beautiful faces with you!  I can email pictures, so if you simply can't wait, shoot me an email (k.smallthingswithgreatlove@gmail.com).

It just so happens that we had family pictures scheduled for next Saturday.  What perfectly God-orchestrated timing for all of this.  So my parents of course had to get coordinating outfits for the other two girls (Anna and Cecelia already had matching dresses).  They should be super, super cute.  Anna and Mya will wear matching dresses and Cece and Agnes will wear matching dresses and all, along with Anthony, coordinate in super cute fallish colors.  Our family is so blessed!

Thursday, October 10, 2013

Big news

I've had a hard time blogging lately.  Not a whole lot has gone on around here the last few weeks.  I thought about blogging about the 2 year old challenges we're facing with our strong willed daughter.  Or the slow progress of our laid back son's walking.  Or how challenging this adoption wait has been on me this time around.  Or maybe this week about how a priest (from another parish) pulled me aside and said my kids were being too disruptive in daily Mass and people were complaining and how upset I was over it.

And I was going to.  I was going to sit down and blog about all those things.  And then I didn't want to complain or dwell on the negative.  So we've been going about our regular routine, enjoying our time with our beautiful kids and this wonderful weather, hoping for a phone call.

And yesterday the call came.

Our case worker was out of the office, so her intern called us.  So we didn't get quite all of the information, but as I just typed that our case worker called with more info.  Basically here's what's up:

I had typed out all kinds of stuff and then I've been on the phone for hours and email and all kinds of stuff.  Basically what was up in the air earlier today is now solidified and our family is growing in a very short time.

Please keep our family in your prayers.  Next week we will be bringing two little girls into our homes to adopt.  They are 3 and 1.  The 1 year old shouldn't have much trouble adjusting as it sounds like she is very easy going and attaches very easily to new caregivers.  The three year old is energetic and smart and full of spunk.  However, the three year old has also seen and experienced some things in her short life that I, as an adult, would have a challenge processing.  She will need a lot of love, supervision and support and we're very thankful that we know she'll find that in our family and community.  We are asking for prayers that we can overcome the challenges that she may face in our family and that she will soon understand that we love her unconditionally and this home is now her permanent home.  We know that God is calling us to be these girls' parents and we just hope that we can gracefully accept all of the challenges and blessings that come with this new adventure. 

We are absolutely overjoyed to add these beautiful girls to our family next week.  Our lives are changing very drastically in a matter of days, but we couldn't be more thrilled and honestly, a little terrified at the way God has grown our family. 


Saturday, September 21, 2013

Quick Takes (61)


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We've done lots of celebrating this week.  Anna's Adoption Day on Thursday, my birthday yesterday, and my brother-in-law's birthday tomorrow.  I have to say, this was one of my best birthdays ever.
 
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  For one, I got to sleep in two days in a row.  Until 8:00.  That's absolutely amazing.  Jeremy made sure to take the kids downstairs as soon as they woke up so that they wouldn't bother me and it was a solid 9+ hours of uninterrupted sleep.  I felt amazing.  Jeremy also cleaned the whole house for me and took poopy diaper duty for the day.
 
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When I did wake up, I woke up to this:

 
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  We went to my favorite breakfast spot, Panera.  And we did a little shopping.  Then we came home, took nice naps and got ready for our party.  Friends of ours moved away 6 months ago and they were back for work/visit.  We hosted a cookout and it was a perfect evening for it.

Baking cookies for the party

Eating our bagels

Anna only eats the cream cheese

Cookout with great friends!  This was the only picture I took.  At least it's a cute one of some of the kids!

Perfect evening for a fire and s'mores

The annual birthday cookie cake.  No flops this year!

 
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We've also spent a lot of time at the pumpkin farm lately.  The kids just love it and the weather's finally cooperating!

Cousin playing together!

Kiddie Corn Maze

Testing out the jumping pillow


Riding the caterpillar ride.  Anthony absolutely LOVES this.  He's obsessed with anything that has wheels.

Checking out the piggies.  He kept saying "Peeee UUUU!"

Such a ham!

Anna: "It's a big one pumpkin!"

 
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We had part one of the great fall clean up at our house.  In preparation for our party, we cut down some low branches (for a safe fire) and raked up some of the leaves.  Anna had a blast helping.
 






 
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Football has started back up.  Meaning my kids are now sporting their Bears gear every Sunday as soon as Mass is over.  They're mighty cute Bears fans!  And Anthony is a HUGE football fan.  He refused to take a nap during the game, instead he stood in his crib saying, "Football!  Touchdown!"

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Thursday, September 19, 2013

Happy Adoption Day!

Today is Anna's Adoption Day!

To be completely honest, I almost forgot!  My birthday's tomorrow and I've been excited about that!

But I did remember, and that's the important part!  And we are going to celebrate big time.  We feel like the luckiest parents in the world to have Anna as our daughter.  She is the most wonderful answered prayer we've ever received. 

At 2 1/2, my sweet girl is so very uniquely Anna.  She is a ball of fun.  She's always entertaining and always smiling.  She's got enough attitude for 4 children and enough hugs for a whole country.  She says the funniest things and wants to be just like Mommy all the time.  She is gentle and loving towards her brother.  And rougher and sassier towards her similar-natured cousin.  She lights up a room when she walks in and never fails to coax a smile out of anyone.  She is shy around strangers but loud and crazy around people she knows well.  Anna is totally into dancing, singing, and all things Disney Princess and Mickey Mouse.  She has a love for her faith that is amazing to see.  She loves saying the rosary and she knows all of the prayers.  She also loves going to Mass (although, we're still working on the "sit still" part of that) and she could sing Marian songs all day long.  I could go on and on and on about my beautiful girl.  I can't imagine life without her.

Anna, we are so blessed to be your parents, and we thank God for you each and every day.  You are truly going to change the world with your enthusiasm and determination.


2 years ago today
When did this beautiful chubby baby turn into...

This tall and skinny ballerina

And crazy active 2 1/2 year old?